we all know what this term is if you dont u betta ask somebody. Whas conversin with my homie she said that she went to a baby shower and it was 3 hrs behind schedule. I automatically asked her if they were black; it was a reflex of the tongue i guess. Anyway why is it commonplace now that black ppl are deemed not punctual, late or otherwise never on time?
I can't really place my metacarpal on it but the now infamous "CP time" echoes throughout society. What baffles me is that we as Blacks seem to be okay with it. As much technology that is at the palm of ur hands(literally) u should never really be late. I understand shyt happens that are beyond ur control but really u need to be on time for any event. I personally cannot stand to be late. Damn son CPT is on Wikipedia ridiculous!
The fact remains we as Blacks need to have more responsibility for ourselves and not settle. Program ur blackberry,palm,etc and be on time for any event that u have already committed to. Stop the madness; no more "CP Time"!
Watched the movie"Angels and Demons" last nite(late last nite). It was totally awesome!! Ron Howard did a great job directing the movie everybody was great. I wont tell you much about it cuz i don't wanna spoil it. It got me to thinking about religion again. It is a very controversial topic however one that should be discussed nonetheless. The movie involves Catholicism. I don't profess I know anything about the religion outside of a few rituals and they worship a guy called the Pope.
I used to be befuddled when i use to hear ppl worship a human being. I have come to understand(try to) that the Pope is as significant as a pastor or clergyman; he is a man of the cloth. The movie incited a lot of burning desire to broaden my knowledge of religion maybe b/c i don't adhere to just one. Should I even? The Pope obviously is very influential and u know what it doesn't matter if i think he is just a man; he is a man with a purpose. The Pope i feel uplifts ppl of that faith and directs them on a path of righteousness.
I am paraphrasing an actor in the movie: Religion is man made and man is not perfect. I guess u have to realize nothing is perfect in this world esp. religion. Worship whatever u like if it can help u become a better person so be it.
I was looking at my fingernails and tried to remember the last time I got a manicure. Hmmm...itz been a minute but it prompted me to pose this question: Where are the black-owned businesses? I am sure there are a few but they are definitely far b/w. For example I have yet to find a black nail shop itz always Asian. Shyt even in the "hood" near me there is an Asian-owed hair shop. What the hell Asian ppl know about Black ppl hair??!! Kudos to them though cuz they know what sells in the "hood":weave,perms, urban wear and alcohol.
Really folks this is serious. I am not talkin about where u have blacks working at an urban clothing store owned by Arab-Americans or a few black women at the Asian-owned hair store. I mean "legitimate" Black-owned entrepreneurs who see the value of bizness and have real concerns about the needs of Blacks in underserved communities. Instead of a ABC store have a health food bodega or a clothing shop that doesn't have "im so hood" T-shirts.
I can empathize with the mindstate of denizens of impoverished areas. The ability to desire change is not there. We have to demand for more and not fall back in the presence of opposition. We need more black businesses that are there to really help not hinder the community. Really why is there a liquor store on every corner in the "hood"? Cuz we allow it. Economics 101 is supply and demand. Whomever supplies the product because ppl want(demand) for it. Let's break the mold and take control of our situation.
Mi hija and I went to church this morning. This is the first I have been in 6 months. It is a Baptist church located near my house which is very convenient for me. I have been under a lot of stress lately from life and i felt like i need some spiritual guidance. I am unsure of my religion if u will. I say that i am spiritual but my background(like most Blacks) is Christianity more specifically Baptist. i grew up goin to church with my parents. As most kids u do as ur told so i was fed a heaping pot of Jesus every Sunday. Growing up and goin to college i didn't really go to church like dat maybe sparingly. I have always been skeptical about religion probly because a lot of it isn't pure it seems tainted by man and all his machinations.
I like church though and i do believe in Jesus Christ. I dont really read the Bible much but i know a little. I know i should probly read more to gain clarity. Well today the pastor was talkn about "ur harvest". Basically saying that there will be things goin on in ur life and itz not for u to understand and think itz about u itz for u to handle it properly and God will c u through all the drama. I love to hear the message on Sundays it provide me with the armor that shields me from harmful day-to-day things that could level any human. I do believe that there is a higher power and without Him u are truly lost.
I try to be different and learn various religions and become an eclectic to understand more than just one religion. A lot of Christians believe that if u dont believe n their religion u goin to Hell..i beg to differ. My God doesn't dicotomize religions and picks the "best". "aint no best north south to east west(Nas)"! I think if u live ur life righteously then u good now how u go about doin that is left to be considered as long as u are monotheistic ur good wit me.
Religion is a hard topic to dissect and really it is very debatable. My thing is i try to get to the essence of it all without all the fat to gnaw through(chicken anyone??). Spiritual is what i call myself for the moment things may change we grow everyday. ALLAH U AKBAR(God is the Greatest)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I heard this one guy tell me one day that snitches get stitches. There has been a ideology circulating around urbanites that if you inform the authorities of a crime or potential illegal activity then ur a snitch. The consequences of this act can be detrimental to ur health(i.e. u would more than likely be killed). This has caused fear in the "hood" and sometimes surrounding surbibia. It is a casading effect ppl dont voice out their concerns of crimes for fear of losing life thus it perpetuates or at least fails in itz attempt to curtail licentious acts.
It has been ingrained in our society for years not just in the "hood". Growing up I was always told not to tattle-tell(snitch) when something I would consider wrong. That mentality has now been played out in the arena of adulthood. Dude ppl are merchandising "stop snitching" T-shirts!!!
Being around the projects most of my life I have seen my share of crime but I learned at an early age the code of the streets. One of those so-called codes is not to snitch. This has lead me to develop a nonchalant attitude towards violence as a whole. I cringe when it occurs but I see it as not my place to get caught up in things that doesn't concern me. I know this is contradictory in a sense because my community should concern me and everyone else. It has been years of conditioning that has lead me to this state of mind. I guess the question is would u call the proper authorities if you witnessed a crime? I extricate myself from situations like that by trying to come at it from another angle like education or prevention rather than intervention if you will. It is a tough decision to make.
I am sure you have heard the adage "music soothes the savage beast" before. Music is a language that has no barriers; no translation is necessary(unless ur reading the notes-music theory). Like most I have been fascinated how curative music is to the soul. It is a panacea for many ailments and is also known to affect mood. Even plants are supposedly affected by these magical notes. There are a plethora of genres to choose from but really even if you don't relate to the lyrics you can definitely be attuned with the instrumental itself. Music connects all ppl transcending culture, race, differences.
I have recently been learning to play the guitar which i bought a while back. Needless to say i have had much luck but it is fun to teach myself. I have also will be taking some lessons from a local music shop so should be real fun. I grew up playing the saxophone. My ppls swear that i would have been a great jazz musician if i just stuck with it...maybe so. I love music and all the emotions that encompass it it fills my life with energy and passion.
Music whether u like hip-hop or jazz is an art form that should be cherished always. It can hype you up or bring u to tears what other thing is that powerful to influence ur emotions like that? Some may say love and while that may be true music doesn't hurt so love the music yall.
whaddup fam "and another one" for ya. Have you ever had burning questions that sear through the flesh of ur brain only to go unanswered? I think we all have at some pt but ask urself do u really wanna know? what is the point of ur ? being answered will u find solace in knowing the truth or that the person didnt tell a lie. I guess many things are meant to be unanswered because things could be worse off. I find it my policy to try to be honest i aint goin to say i am always but i really do try cuz i want that in return. Really the title speaks for itself there are a lot of times when we fashion crazy things in our heads that simply arent true. It is more of the curiosity than anything that pains us and while it doesnt hurt to ask what u dont know can hurt u potentially. Stress can lead to physical and mental ailements. My remedy is if it really isnt that serious let it go and dont worry about it. There are umpteen million other things to concern urself with than whatever is troubling ur neurons at the moment. All darkness come to light and the answer will reveal itself in due time without ur prodding.
Y is love sooo hard? one minute ur on cloud 90 then next ur wondering if he/she is the "one". I am goin through relationship problems with a gurl that i am totally in love with. Not to get too personal but love make u do crazy shyt for real. I am experiencing it firsthand. I have NEVER felt this way about any gurl before. I know i am n love with her. I realize that sometimes to come together it is good to be apart. It sux but i have learned a lot about myself and our relationship.
Now i know what jordin sparks and chris brown meant with the song "no Air"; it is hard to fxn normally without this gurl in my life. That is real sad cuz i should stand on my own two. I depended so much from her with regards to happiness and peace that it drew energy from the relationship; the spark needed for her to reciprocate emotional connection back. I am using myself as an example because i know many go thru these things. two ppl don't make a whole it is that two ppl make a third(1+1=3) the third being the relationship. Relationships require two individuals that are dependent only of themselves to come together and build a relationship as a unit. Both need not be needy of the other cuz that causing strife and loss of vitality in the relationship. U don't put expectations in humans they will only let u down put them in the Creator. As humans we must understand that we all have issues and we make mistakes but if u want to be with someone u take their flaws and virtues together;itz a package deal. Being this is Independence Day there is a reason to be free for urself; to make a stand to be whole by urself.
Love hurts like a muther but at least i know i can feel. I dont know the outcome of my situation ..yeah i wanna be with her forever she is my first real love will we?? i don't know. I just know that i have learned a lot in this process and it has made me more mature. "I aint mad baby it made me stronger made me get my paper longer". So for those out there that are lovesick there is a cure : learn from the relationship and want went wrong from all angles (u ,him/her,etc.) and REALLY make a change for the better not so much for u to be with ur love again(hopefully) but to become a better person whether it is with him/her or someone else.....hotep(peace)
In this world we met all types of ppl. Some think everything happens for a reason and some are here in a person's life for a season. Me.? well i do believe things happen for whatever reason:chance or fate. Love is a funny thing however. My parents married had babies(me and my brother)and then got divorced soon after. Does it mean that they were the one for each other. I guess at that moment. I don't know if I believe in a ONE. Yeah u can love someone a whole lot and neva be together forever(forever ever??). I have found someone i can share my life with and be happy(she just don't know it yet) but does that make her the one? The "one" is not necessarily who u marry i don't think. There are many who are attuned with ur feelings and understand u but u don't really have to marry them and all that. In my opinion the "one" is who u make it to be and destiny and ur efforts will make it come to fruition. "ur love is ummm ummm goood goood ummm ummm goood for meeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!! much better off".... letting things happen don't worry if he/she is the one.
"Nice guys finish last with their special set of rules". Jay-Z poignantly conveyed in his rhymes that nice guys always seem to the most undesirable. I am currently reading this book"No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Dr. Robert Glover. I have only read a few chapter(thus the part 1 of this blog) but I have already begun introspecting my life as a whole and visualizing the contents of the book as it relates to me(in lamens terms: I'm feelin it so far!!).
Now let me somewhat define what Dr. Glover means by a nice guy. A nice guy is one who always wants to please others in spite of himself. This is a wonderful altruistic trait but one cannot love others if he doesn't love himself. A lot of women nowadays want a lil drama in there lives; so action that negates what the nice guy offers in a relationship. There is nothing wrong with being nice but u gotta draw limits. U cant let ppl take u for granted or abuse ur kindness. In reality the nice guy is really not so nice he appears to be but he got hella problems.
Yes ladies I am one of the nice guys. I have always been a good guy with a pinch of thug in me but hey.....I don't treat women wrong and i have been raised to be respectful. I got problems which are currently under construction;he who is without sin throw the first stone ya dig. For a long time I couldn't find a gurl that would like me for being nice but it seemed when i was a lil rough around the edges gurls flock. I aint a playa and i don't mess around a lot either but i don't understand women that like to be disrespected and treated like object. Nice guys are deemed as not having confidence and not able to "man up". This is a gross misconception but one all to real in the minds of women. All women deserve to be treated like the queens they are and the King(me) can provide. I know women want to be cherished and secure but does a bad boy have to be the one who can do dat for u??? The nice guy syndrome is an interesting concept that is still in me thus the reason for me reading the book. I am trying to get what i want and need in life by not being so "nice".
Part two is coming up once i finish this book but feel free to discuss what i said above.
