how i love thee

"love is love love"so says Wu-tang clan. Love is a complex thing that sometimes bedazzles me to no end. What is love really? is it that feeling of bliss when u are with a special someone? Or maybe that deep emotional connection(the "one"-see previous post on this topic)? I am no expert on love or even relationships for that matter; shyt I'm havin a hard time trying to keep mine intact. We have all been in love or at least we thought we have been. I tend to object to the fantasy idea of loving someone intensely then that sustains forever. Love comes and goes; there are variations or stages if you will. Don't get me wrong some may find someone they love deeply and that last forever but to me realness sets in sooner rather than later. Ppl have too many expectations on love i think. Love flows like the Nile River it brings life to two people and the relationship. However it takes more than love to keep a relationship.

Here is my take on love. U first meet a nice-looking male/female. There is an attraction(physically) then u talk to them get to know them. Do you love me? I doubt it. Yes you both may have things in common but you continue to court and get to know the person and eventually(not always) u create a bond. this is the infatuation stage of love. You wanna spend time with this person continue to know them nurture ur bond. Next yall become a couple. Now at this point it can be a little tricky it depends on how u play it. Love can continue to grow but it goes beyond the "head over peds" phase. You see the faults in ur significant other. he doesn't fold the clothes or she picks her feet in the bed. But really this aren't faults they are just the quirky things ppl do just cuz u don't do it doesn't mean itz wrong. Anyway the connection is plugged into the socket now and u have real love like Mary J said. All of this is tentative because itz contingent on the two ppl to be committed. If ur not then u may stray or not invest energy to sustain the relationship. As most know relationship are a 9-5 plus OT baby so again it take more than love to withstand a lot of jealousy,insecurities, communication breakdowns, etc that WILL come.

I asked my father once was he in love with his wife(my step mom) he promptly said "no". I was taken aback for a sec. but he explained that i goes beyond being in love he deeply loves his wife. being in love i think is a term that can be subjective and interchangeable. I think for him it meant the same thing kinda. He is in love with his wife because they have real love in their household. Nah the infatuation stage been over( his been married to her for over 20 yrs now) and they have been through a lot as any long-term couple should and would. Love is what u make it kinda like life. There are changes but if you truly love someone deeply then no one(or thing) can penetrate ur bond.


What you do is crazy babe
Not like you belong in an asylum
Crazy babe,
Like the sun in the morning
And the moon at night
Like the rain falling from the sky
Like the trees growing from the ground
I'm astounded babe
By your love for me
And your touching me
And your trust in me
Like you do whoo whoo whoo whoo whoo whoo whoo whoo-Jill Scott "Not like Crazy"