good black man at your service

I was IMing(cant believe this is a verb) a friend of mine on Facebook today and her status line read:I need a little testosterone in my life. I replied that this by saying "take ur pick there are plenty of good men out here?". I included myself in this statement not as an invitation for her(she is strictly my homie) but I am a good man. I am a currently single handsome black man with an education. I know about the statistics of young black men and the state of their affairs. It is a damn shame but don't clump me in that category. Where all the good women at?! When a good man treats you well then u don;t reciprocate so how u gonna find a good man when u aint no good urself ...think about it.

We as black men are,have been and always will be public enemy numero uno in this white man's world period. Unfortunately due to systematic destruction of our own doing and by the influence of the powers that be( shay whitey or ofays as i like to call 'em) have combined to obliterate the black man in every shape, form and fashion. From incarceration to uneducation to drug dealing to pimping we have withered to a select few that "have made it". And really have we REALLY MADE IT? nah brothas and sistahs we trying to survive in a soceity that doesnt want us and deems us inadequate.

I come from a middle class family my parents divorced when i was real young and i was...well kinda raised myself. I didn't have a lot of parenting in the household but dont wanna get too personal. It was me and my twin brother and we managed with some guidance from my mother and father. I say this because I wasn't indigent and i was a reasonably good student in skool. But i still had major issues growing up so i didn't need to be from the ghetto to struggle. To make a long story short i went to college and graduated with a two B.S. degrees now working and making a decent living. Most would say that I made it or that i am a good man. But what makes a good man?

A good man is a good human being regardless of color. Yet also in a since when referring to black men there seems to be some requirements. Education is key and it doesn't matter what ethnicity you are but also i think most women would say a "nicca wit a job" is a must. Yeah income coming in is crucial especially in this "recession" but damn can a dude working at Wendy's get some love?? I believe a good black man is someone who makes u happy and is righteous. Yeah everyone falters and some may have a little thug in them but overall is he pious, good-natured aka a good black man. That is for you to decide. Remember though shyt aint always biscuits and gravy and just b/c u are goin thru some thangs dont mean he aint no good. Have you checked urself lately? Aight then nuf said!!

So ladies before you go off and say"where all the good black men at?" You may be talking to one and you haven't took the time to explore.

(note: this is not me in the pic above...i am better looking lol)

warring about peace corp

I am constantly pondering over this topic for a while now. I am considering joining the Peace Corps. My aspirations are to get into Physician Asst. skool at Duke. But in conjunction with the GRE i need clinical hours(hands-on patient experience). The Peace Corp would definitely help me out in that regard. I also feel like traveling abroad will enlighten and mature me.

The Peace Corp is a volunteer service first established by John F. Kennedy on March 1, 1961. It is intended to send American volunteers to various places on earth to work with skools and government in areas of health, agriculture, business,etc.

My dilemma is that it requires a 2yr service abroad. Not to mention the fact that I probably wont be able to get back to the states until at least a yr so that means it would be very tedious to communicate(well i know i could write but may not be physically present). Now if you been following my blog(if not then y not) u know i have a lil gurl around 8 yrs old. I am also in love with someone("chica") although we are not a couple at the moment. I don't want to leave neither of them and plus I would be leaving family and friends. On the one hand it would be an experience of a lifetime to travel to say the motherland(Afrika for non-blacks). I am a huge proponent of volunteerism yet it is different when u travel abroad. I feel volunteering in Amerikkka is less impactful than say helping children in Kenya to get basic health care and education. I know there are unfortunate people here in Amerikkka but in other countries there are people suffering due to politics or wars,etc. Yet on the other hand there are people here that I am extremely close to and i don't want to leave. Definitely not my daughter cuz she needs her father. My ex-girlfriend is a different situation we are in a hiatus right now it is complex(as all relationships) but i am in love with her but i don't know if we will get back together. Does that mean I should not wait and see or pursue my dreams and if it is meant to be it is meant to be? I am confused...but right now i am volunteer at Duke Hospice so that goes towards my clinical hours as well as satisfying my need for altruism.

I dont know what is goin to happen I tend to go with the flow(but not a follower by no means). We shall see.....

slave to the name

This is an interesting topic that i myself find hard to figure out. What is being black? What is being white for that matter? Well since i am afrikan-in-amerikkkan (lol) i cant speak on the latter. Race is a social construct fabricated in Amerikkka for the sake of classification. I am no anthropologist but i dont recall any history class any other time or place besides Amerikkka where race was coined.

With regards to people of color we come from various ethnicities that it is hard to categorize into one thing(although many try). When we say "black people" what do we refer to? Is it the skin color or ethnicity? In Amerikkka the term "black" , "white" often refers to skin color in conjunction with culture. It is a falsity however because we have different backgrounds and the culture itself is tedious to define. I believe race is constructed to validate slavery and has yet to be properly addressed in this society.

I dislike using the term "black" when describing "my people" but what else do I use? Even "afrikan-amerikan" seems skewed when labeling a certain group of people. We come from all over the globe but i guess "afrikan-amerikkkan" closely relates to our people when defining us. Help me out here people it is a deep subject that needs to be explored and questioned thoroughly. Maybe it aint that serious to u BUT IT SHOULD BE....yo check out this article about race:http://www.westernstatescenter.org/resource/ScreenDRHistory.pdf

good grief

This past wkend I completed a long overdue training session to become a Duke Hospice volunteer. I am proud to say that I will be a part of a wonderful system built on exemplary standards. In one session we were discussing grief. As you know in a Hospice patients are not treated with curative measure; you go there to live the rest of ur days comfortably. Grief is an essential resultant of any loss. Loss happens all the time and u shall grieve but it is not a bad thing if u do it positively(don't smoke weed cuz ur dog died...).

Grieving is good for many reasons. It is part of the healing process and needed to get past whatever ur grieving over. I say embrace the grief in its entirety. Yes it hurts but to move forward u need to heal ur pain and angst. If you lose a love don't run and become a recluse grieve(cry, remember,etc) and move forward. Grieving doesn't mean that you are weak or that you cant get over say loved one(or two). Humans are emotional beings so emoting feelings of grief when situations arises that trigger that is natural progression of cause and effect. So grieve my friends it is good for you.

Boondocks...a breath of fresh air for black people

Boondocks is a cartoon created by Aaron McGruder. It is a social satire of American culture and black people in general. I am sure most of my readers have at least heard about the show. If not check it out on adult swim @ Cartoon Network.

I absolutely love the shows. It is funny as hell and it has a message. I hope Mr. McGruder continues to put more shows out in the future. I know that some people dont like to show for whatever reason. I've heard some don't like it cuz it uses the word "nigga" a lot. But damn people I bet most of u use it daily so don't gimme that mess. I feel the show conveys what I feel about black pop culture and Amerikkkan culture. I want to congratulate all who have a part in making the show what it is today-a masterpiece of social importance.

It is hard to talk about social issues today especially black people issue cuz everything is so tactful. Yes you should be but damn if the shoe fit..buy it lol. nah but seriously Boondocks tell it like it is; shyt the truth hurts. It is not like it is totally inaccurate with some of the things they talk about(see below):

What is success? (part one)

Whaddup family. Let's talk about success baby(singing salt and pepper melody) let us talk about all the good thing that may be let talk about success. What is success to you ladies and gentlemen? Is it materialism; how much paper u got or the whips u push? Or is it the job u finally obtained after years in skool? I guess it depends but success is synonymous with achievement of some goal that an individual has. I was reading a fellow bloggers(acting white-see bloggers I follow) umm well blog and it prompted me to write bout specifically our black youth(if ur non-black and reading this youth regardless of color are our future).

The blogger was talking about how many youths that he/she encountered where basically stuck. They felt like they had no future after high school. There are a few that go to college but overall many do. In this century in my opinion college is not an option it is a requirement. I have a lil gurl and i drill her on the advantages of education. Being a college graduate myself i understand the need for a college education and shyt now that aint even good enuff.

There are numerous reasons we can throw around about y black youth are not getting it. Success occurs at various points in my opinion. If ur goal is to graduate high school Bam! success!!! but y stop there create another goal and go get it. I think many of our youth think if their not making millions by age 25 then their a failure.

Parenting is at the top of the list for me as far as motivating our kids. Yeah im biased cuz i am a father but really "it takes a village...."you know the rest. We all need to be paragons for the youth to see that they is a future for black people. Especially if your young it would have more affect because of the age gap difference(less) they may feel like they can relate. I know everyone isnt built for college(i.e. don't wanna go,etc) but teach ur kids(and not just ur biological ones either) the value of education. Nah they don't have to go to college but damn get some post high school degree if just to enrich ur knowledge; feed the brain god.


Lastly i think we put up with too much crap from media and our own people. Pick ur battles though cuz u aint gonna win them all. For instance hell nah i don't let my daughter lissen to Beyonce not when she talking about upgrade u-what message is that for her? Things like dat u gotta be conscience of. Mi hija (daughter) was cheering in dowtown (?) NC and the music they were playing was not appropriate for lil gurls. Me and my Chica told them to change it. Some might say it is just music of the time maybe so but does that make it okay??? Hell 2 the nahhhh....!!!!


Look people wake yo azz up fuk smelling the coffee bust ur kids upside the head with a math book or instead of letting the watch their favorite show like Fairly Oddparents (shyt is hilarious by the way) take them to the museum and if u cant afford that do something for free that enriches their mind.

jus a freestyle....

itz a freestyle but f u pay me/ lately been stressed ready to explode like TNT/ work doesnt define me/ love blinds but my 3rd eye spy/deity when i rhyme call me the sun god praise to the most high though/ tryin to get this dough make bread to rise to the top like yeast/defeat challengers and upstarts/play ur part or get cut/lights camera action/now they talkn bout taxin/ beer neva fear/ lucid drunkard/still function/ur brain i puncture with the hits i inflict/use to be a misfit/now equipped with tools to strive farther/tryin to be a father to mi hija/ur rhymes bore me imma go to sleppa/peep the way i display the thought patterns i manufacture.